When will it be my turn?

I am in a disgusted and fowl mood right now. I have come to terms with my losses. I am even happy for those who are expecting at this moment. I am really upset with my boss's wife. J is about eight months pregnant. About a week ago one of our ex employees IM'd me asking if I received my invitation to J's baby shower. Of course I was at work at the time so I didn't know if the invitation would be waiting for me at home. Of course it was not. Here it is a week later and still no invitation.

Now all of her shower gifts are arriving at the office for her husband (my boss) to take home. I am an employee, yet she invites people who have been terminated from the company. It is pissing me off because she is making this decision for me. It is NOT her decision to make. Yes, since I have been at this job I have had three miscarriages in which one was during the early part of her pregnancy. She, of all people, should understand. She has had her trouble with infertility. Now the whole baby shower is being thrown in my face with the boxes of car seats, strollers, and other things coming through the office that I have to sign for.

Don't get me wrong, I am extremely happy for her! She has had her troubles conceiving and pretty much gave up on having any children. I don't want her to feel like she has to walk on eggshells when around me, and that is how she is treating me. We have hit it off from day one at this company...jamming to 80s music on her laptop and laughing it up. Now this move she has pulled is like a slap in the face.